All posts tagged: choleric

A Bulldozer of Change- The Choleric

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A look at the current players in the presidential field of contenders might give us a snapshot of a Choleric or two. One thing that can be said about the Choleric is that they will never accused of being mild or meek. They don’t shy away from challenge and aren’t brought to their knees by opposition. In fact, they welcome it as an opportunity to assert their position and squash anyone who shows the slightest hint of weakness. This serves them well when an individual possessing this temperament decides to begin a new business venture or project. They will carefully surround themselves with people who are well-connected, knowledgeable, and successful. When they want to accomplish something, they take no prisoners, and skillfully dominate and manipulate their success. Sounds like the kind of guy you want to have on your team right? While the Choleric is well versed with affecting change in business practices, management, and organizations, they can sometimes fall short when it comes to making personal growth and progress.  This is the deal.  They …

Temperament Types and Approach to Challenge

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  Our temperament plays an important role in the way we approach tasks and challenges. Back in the 5th century B.C., Hippocrates came up with a description of people and their personalities and learning styles called the temperaments. We have the Outgoing Sanguine, Perfect Melancholy, Powerful Choleric, and the Laid Back Phlegmatic. As of late another temperament, The Elusive Supine has been described as not exactly fitting into any those four, possessing unique characteristics of the other types. In our upcoming series we will look at how each of these temperament types help frame the way individuals approach challenges, and goal setting. Based on our temperament blending we have different notions of how we define our level of satisfaction of the life we are living. Some people are more prone to embrace change, while others fight it tooth and nail. Still others are willing to accept things as they are, while another group of people are always looking for ways to improve and seek to achieve more. The temperament types also have a different way …

Develop Your Family Culture!

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  Working with a family over any length of time, you will quickly discover their habits and practices.  They are unique to each family and define the nature of who they are now and define what they will become. What is the culture of your family? As parents we bring the culture of our own upbringing into our new creation. With that comes the whole package of the good, the bad and the ugly in some cases. Is your family culture one that displays mutual admiration, respect, and positive feedback? With our children, the way we speak to and about our spouse speaks volumes to our children. Do they witness critique for the sake of empowering each other versus criticism, negativity, and put downs? When progress is made, do you take the opportunity to praise your child for a job well done? When we take time to pause before coming out with a negative barb, we can avert an unnecessary confrontation and the need to apologize later. I try to establish a cease fire with …

What Is Your Temperament Type?

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  How many times have you taken one of those “personality” tests only to find that you are lumped into a group of people having only similar tendencies? The problem with most of these assessments is that they are generated to point out generalities that we all possess to some degree. The Arno Profile System is an assessment that not only gives you a snapshot of how your are wired, but breaks it down to four specific areas. It is a detailed set of results, unique to you, with pinpoint accuracy. We all have to live and manage our lives in the areas of inclusion, control, affection, and spirituality. Intertwined within these four areas are the temperaments of the Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic, Melancholy, and Supine. The Supine temperament is unique only to the APS temperament analysis. Inclusion describes who we choose to let into our world and how many people we want to interact with on a daily basis. Some of us have a lot of surface relationships but few close associations. The Sanguine loves a crowd and …

Selectively in Love-The Choleric

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As it has been discussed already, the Choleric doesn’t approach anything in half measures!  One of the greatest traits of this temperament is the desire the express a great deal of love and affection. They tend to approach only a select group of people for deep relationships. When they are fully invested in a relationship, they are open, receptive, optimistic and outgoing. They are very demonstrative in shows of affection both physically and in gift-giving gestures.  After reading this description it certainly sounds like the choleric would be quite a catch!  However, just like every other temperament they do have their weaknesses. A Choleric appears to want deep, personal relationships when in reality, they tend to back off. The reason for this is simply because while they like to show their love, they also want to receive it on their terms. They will reject becoming engaged fully in a relationship if their terms aren’t met. In most cases their standards are very stringent, and they raise the bar pretty high. It’s sometimes difficult for them to express strong emotions …

“I’ve Got This”

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  As far as issues of control, the choleric in the “Commander–in Chief”!  A choleric really doesn’t know what a daunting situation is. They approach situations and relationships with a great deal of confidence, and commands attention and respect. They tend to be effective in CEO and management positions because they approach projects and tasks in an almost military-like precision. They are able to motivate others and make things happen. Because they set things up in such an organized manner, they choose people to get on board that will do things exactly they way they want it to be done. “It’s my way or the highway!” If you aren’t moving at the same clip as the powerful choleric, you will be quickly left in their wake. While all of these attributes sound great on the surface, the choleric encounters problems with others when they want to exert a little too much force and control over other people’s lives. Because they have difficulty in delegating authority to others, they are also prone to “burn out.” A choleric …

The Powerful Choleric and Social Interactions

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  It is said that “No man is an island” We all have to practice some level of social interaction, unless we live the life of a hermit. Some of us choose to surround ourselves with many people in surface relationships while others prefer the more intimate interactions with only select friends and family. The choleric tends to be selective extroverts. As natural born leaders, they are able to gather a loyal following.  They are usually well liked and use their ability to naturally interact with others as a screening device. They usually surround themselves with people that are complimentary and uplifting. The problem sometimes arises when people no longer suit their needs or disappoint them. When others fail to live up to their expectations, they become disillusioned and begin to distance themselves from those individuals. This is a weakness of the choleric temperament, but the good thing is that they can acknowledge it after gaining insight into this part of they are. Through the life coaching process, the choleric can recognize when they are acting …

Temperament Analysis and Life Coaching

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One of the best assessment tools a life coach can have is a Temperament Analysis assessment. In simple terms, temperament is the inborn, God-given part of man that determines how we react to people, places, and things. Our temperament also defines our perceptions of ourselves and the people we choose to associate with.  In addition, it is the determining factor in the way we handle the pressure and stresses of life. Our temperament is different from the mask we wear called personality, which is shaped by our experiences and environment. Our temperament is as unique as a fingerprint, in that we are rarely a pure temperament type. There are five basic temperaments: choleric, phlegmatic, melancholy, sanguine, and supine. Most people are a blending of these in the areas of inclusion, control, and affection.  Looking at this in simplistic terms, inclusion determines who is in or out of a relationship. Control determines who maintains the power and makes decisions in relationships. Affection is the way we choose to remain emotionally close or distant in relationships Life …

Reframing Roles in Life Coaching – The Hero and the Mascot

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  The Hero provides a sense of self-esteem for the family unit. It’s their perceived responsibility to carry “the banner” for the public to see. In her adult life, shee seeks to make her family proud, but suffers from the intense need to always keep up appearances. A woman who acts as the hero in relationships can be compulsive about her achievements and perfection. This can adversely affect significant and familial relationships by unrealistic expectations of others as well as herself. The choleric temperament can usually be found woven somewhere within the hero. The good news is that being success driven, the hero can be open to redirection through the life coaching process. The Mascot served as the one who provided humor and comic relief for the family. They are most often the youngest of the siblings. While entertaining, the mascot often squelched their true feelings at the risk of being emotionally underdeveloped. A woman who presents in this way toa life coach may be a “social butterfly”, and well connected in surface social relationships. She …