Month: June 2016

What’s Holding You Back Today?

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    We’ve all heard the term, “No pain, No gain.”  For those of us who aren’t fans of a workout at the gym, these are not words of encouragement. In the same way, when we look at areas of our life that need improvement, we lack the same motivation. It’s going to be inconvenient or time consuming. What will people think if I  suddenly change directions or explore a new career? I want to have a deeper relationship with God, but I can’t get beyond past disappointments and anger. My relationships are so strained, I think they’re beyond repair. Much like the physical analogy, a body has to be challenged, stretched,  and pushed to certain limits in order reach a goal.  In the life coaching process, you are challenged to dig deeply into the areas of your life that have you feeling less than fulfilled. If you desire optimum, long-lasting results, the first step is to have that desire to explore options. The second step is is an honest self-appraisal of strengths and weaknesses. (We …

Starving Inside? Feed the Spirit

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How many times have you found yourself feeling alone or rejected? Perhaps you’ve experienced periods of feeling worthless or insignificant. Maybe you’re going through a number of those days strung together simply feeling “out of sorts”. When you end up in any of these places, what’s your first thought?  My first thought is, “How the heck did I get here?” to be followed by, ” How can I turn this thing around?”  At this point it’s usually time for me to do some soul-searching and inner reflection, all a product of being HONEST with myself.  In actuality, my first thought should be to check my God Connection making sure it’s plugged in properly! HONESTY is the key to deeper understanding by recreating the” mental bread crumb trail” of the things I’ve done and those I’ve failed to do. The second phase is creating a modification plan with realistic and attainable goals. The main objective should be enhancing the spiritual life and feeding the inner man, thus setting all the other goals into motion. Here are …

Needs Vs. Wants

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 Jan M. Drury, M.S., C.L.C. Life Coaching Partners, LLC All of us have basic physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.  When we attempt to meet all of these needs alone, we find ourselves driven by the things of this world. To be alive means that we have to be driven to some extent. The problem arises when we demand control of every aspect of our lives. As soon as one want is satisfied, we jump right into the next. What we fail to recognize is the difference between needs and wants.  If we think about it, our physical needs are met for  the most part, barring illness. The areas of our lives that we continue to exert the most control involve our wants. This desire for control spills over into the emotional and spiritual realm causing a deficit. The results are disappointment, resentments, and unnecessary stress because it basically becomes a bottomless pit!  There is certainly nothing wrong with working hard to have the things that make us happy. But, what is truly enough when it …

Weakness+Humility=Strength

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 Charles W. Drury, C.L.C. “God does not withdraw His mercy, nor permit of His promises to fail.” (Sirach 47:22) Uncertainty is an ever-present reality to the Christian believer. The paradox is that we have faith but also possess doubt. It’s in our human nature. Is God really there? With a world filled with billions, Is He really interested in me?  Does He really at work in today’s troubling world?  Does He keep His promises even now? The Psalmists faced those questions with a resounding and courageous YES! The questions are the same today as they were for the people living in 100 A.D. They experience tyranny, sadness, failures, violence, inequality, death, and shortages of food and opportunities. When the early Christians were under attack from all sides, it must have been really hard to remain faithful believers. When we are on top and everything is going our way, faithfulness is pretty easy. When things begin to unravel, and we realize we aren’t in control of every aspect of our lives, we find strength. Yet another paradox …

Faith in Darkness

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Charles W Drury, C.L.C. Life Coaching Partners Many of us have lived through and survived dark times in our lives. Times when we were full of struggles, worry and remorse. Times when we have felt deeply the tragedy of life.  During these difficulties we often find ourselves questioning our faith, or simply looking for something or someone to blame.  Perhaps we ask “Why me,” instead of seeking a closer relationship with our Creator.  We are looking everywhere but up!  Daily surrender to God’s will brings a peace and joy that offers the hope of making all things new.  It’s not according to our desired script, but it is new. God offers us options and ways to turn over our self will and desired outcomes. Each night passes and gives way to the promise of a joyous sunrise, but the darkness of our burdens still linger in the shadows.  This is a daily process, and not a one time fix. We need to put on our spiritual armor each day, asking God for all the gifts …

Finding Your Immortal Diamond

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Jan M. Drury, M.S., C.L.C. We are living and breathing “Diamonds in the Rough.”  The greatest part of our inner destiny is to discover our true identity, not the facade we think others expect of us. Humans have a tendency to not only want to run away from and deny a divine presence, but also our true self. We tend to want to contradict the way God created us to be. When you peel away most of the layers of the onion, you are left with the simplest part of what it means to be fully human. “Your true self is that part that knows WHO you are and WHOSE you are. although unconsciously. Your fake self is just who you THINK you are but thinking doesn’t make it so.”   ~Richard Rohr,  The Immortal Diamond  Our ego tends to get in the way.and our preoccupation with things that are fleeting blocks us from our personal best.  It’s kind of like mining for a diamond. chipping away and digging deep, even though we are reluctant to …

Spiritual Direction Life Coach, Charles W.Drury

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Our site contains many articles and personal reflections describing the benefits of adding the spiritual direction component to the life coaching experience and relationship. In many cases it is that disconnect from God and our spiritual being that results in feeling incomplete or unfulfilled in other areas such as relationships or career. It is the missing link between trying to “find spirituality” and the realization that you are already a “spiritual being” trying to find a relationship with God in the process of being human! Contact me for a  free initial consultation to discover if spiritual development can help to bring your Cross of Life into the balance of love, worship, work, and play. Charles W. Drury, C.L.C.       charlie@lifecoachingpartners.com         504-214-0273

Emotional Progress Not Perfection

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  We have all triggers, those predictable things that set us off.  It could be a left handed insult from a coworker. or the absent-minded driver on the morning commute. When we look at the big picture, it’s no so much the disturbance, but the way we choose to react to them.  When we feel the world and everything in it are in some sort of sinister plot to get the best of us, we lose our emotional edge.  We become entrenched in suspicion, resentment, and the ultimate pity party. If we do a thorough self- inventory, we can begin to look at a pattern for our emotional distress. If we are truly honest with ourselves, the truth is that when we are feeling a sense of DISease, there is something going on with us internally.  Is it EVERYONE else or is it me? The people that annoy us most usually have a particular character defect that we possess ourselves.  We’ve been that distracted driver who is delayed taking off at the green light in …