Confrontation Doesn’t Equal Argument
When we are able to put our own ego aside, and give up our need for total control, (even at temporary intervals!) we can come to a place of no longer living to defend ourselves. It is possible to have meaningful personal relationships in which we don’t have to fight everyone and everything. Here are 3 quick tools to employ: 1. Choose your battles! Not every word, retort, or act needs to be addressed. Let some of them go. When you do want to make a point on something that matters, it will be more meaningful. Others will listen to you more when you don’t fire off at every opportunity. 2. Maintain an emotional thermometer that you pay close attention to. When you feel yourself “heating up” employ a couple of “cool down” practices. You can pause 5 seconds before responding (maybe longer), purposely lower your voice or retreat to another room to regroup. Prayer is a great option as well! 3. Don’t keep going around the “same mountain.” You can always agree to disagree. That, in …