A look at the current players in the presidential field of contenders might give us a snapshot of a Choleric or two. One thing that can be said about the Choleric is that they will never accused of being mild or meek. They don’t shy away from challenge and aren’t brought to their knees by opposition. In fact, they welcome it as an opportunity to assert their position and squash anyone who shows the slightest hint of weakness. This serves them well when an individual possessing this temperament decides to begin a new business venture or project. They will carefully surround themselves with people who are well-connected, knowledgeable, and successful. When they want to accomplish something, they take no prisoners, and skillfully dominate and manipulate their success. Sounds like the kind of guy you want to have on your team right?
While the Choleric is well versed with affecting change in business practices, management, and organizations, they can sometimes fall short when it comes to making personal growth and progress. This is the deal. They are so focused on what’s going on around them and trying to gain professional ground, that they begin to see the people around them as merely a means to an end. Over time they lose sight of the value of personal relationships and interactions. People are expendable. In most cases they don’t set out to alienate others or end relationships purposely. It’s just a part of their nature, and they are living out a part of their God-given temperament.
When a choleric comes into the life coaching relationship, it’s usually a result of ulterior motives. The good news is that the redeemed Choleric is a magnificent addition to the world! When they learn to love people and see value in everything others bring to the table, their hearts begin to soften. That same confidence and determination they have can begin to manifest itself in the people they live and work with on a daily basis. They begin to work through others and not over others. They cease being a bulldozer, and become empowering sculptors and cultivators!
Jan M. Drury, M.S., C.L.C. jan@lifecoachingpartners.com
Life Coaching Partners, LLC 